So why the dreading?- you may ask. The conflict that takes place in my heart is for my SD. She doesn't know the hurt that I feel for her on this day. I think of her bio-mom sitting somewhere on this day and while she doesn't deserve a second thought, I feel sorry that she is not able to see her daughter on this joyous occasion. I feel anger that there was something inside her that held her back from being the mother she needed to be. I feel sad for my SD, while I am more than happy to step in as her mother- I can't help but wonder if she is longing to celebrate her bio-mom. Even if her bio-mom doesn't cross her mind, she crosses my mind. My love for her is so much that I wish that the past could be erased and that her mother was the kind of the mother that any child deserves. Unfortunately some wishes can not come true. So I try and make the best out of a very unfortunate situation.
On a lighter note, I love being a mother! I spend day in and day out dedicating my life to my kiddos. On most days, being a mother truly is my pleasure. Other days, well.... you can imagine. I don't need a day of breakfast in bed, cards, and celebrations. I wouldn't turn down a long nap though. They came busting in my bedroom at sun up with home made cards, photos, flowers with an such joy. Theirs is the most innocent and pure love that exists--at least until they become teenagers.
On this past Friday I was fortunate enough to visit my children's school. My schedule this past school year has allowed me few opportunities to visit the school. My own college classes, internship, work and other errands dominated my days and my life. My son's kindergarten class was having a Muffins with Mom event for Mother's Day. When my son laid eyes on me in his classroom that precious face began to glow.. He had just been with me less than an hour before that getting ready for school and waiting for the bus. He acted as if he had not seen me in years. He hugged me and I told him to take his place on the carpet where his classmates were gathered. As he sat on his "parking" spot, he could not take his eyes off of me. He sat with his back to the teacher with a half grin on his face. I would motion with my finger for him to turn around and he would turn his face slightly keeping one eye on me. It was something I had never seen from him, it was pride. He was proud of me and proud that I was there to share in the Muffins with Moms event. If he only knew how proud I was of him. The children did a little song and dance that absolutely melted my heart. We shared a precious breakfast snack that consisted of muffins, brownies and cinnamon rolls. The thirty minute celebration passed too quickly and it was time to go. My heart was bursting with love and my eyes full of tears that I tried to hide. It felt like the day he was born--when I became a mother.
Everyday is Mother's Day to me. Like I said above, I don't want or need gifts in celebration of me. My children ARE my gift. Everyday is Mother's Day because I have the joy of celebrating my children, without them I would not be a mother. Happy Mother's Day to all of you moms, step-moms, adoptive moms, grandmas, single fathers raising children and anyone else who has taken on the amazing journey of raising a beautiful child!!