Can you swim?

They think she walks on water, I want to push her out of the boat and see if she can! Not really, but sometimes I just get soooo angry with Bio-Mom!

So, one topic that just ruffles my feathers is scheduling of visits.

Because our children live with us full time and visits are few and far between in the mind of a child, my hubby and I TRULY want our kids to see the other parents as often as possible.

One thing we run into though is bio-mom wants the visits to be scheduled around HER time. Being that she travels A LOT, she schedules summer visits with the children when she feels she'll have more time to spend with them. Understandable and commendable. The problem I have with this is bio-mom doesn't check with bio-dad BEFORE telling the kids when they will come visit her.

This year, this poses a problem. The twinnies are playing baseball again. It's an activity that all the parents pitched in financially for the kids to do and the boys totally love it. Our season runs until the 1st week of June, then tournament time hits. Tournament can be 1 game or 12 depending on how well the team does. Therefore, we can go well into mid-month before the season ends. But if mom comes to get them when she says she's going to the only thing the team is going to see is a face-full of dust as our kids race to wherever it is that bio-mom is planning to take them this summer. The loyalty of an 11-year-old just doesn't stretch that far when the prospect of amusement parks are dangled in their face.

This isn't sitting well with DH and I. We believe that the kids committed to their team to play the season out. If both kids leave, the team will have to forfeit the rest of the season. So, the quandry presents itself.

In my opinion, this is a teaching moment for our children. They committed to the team to begin the season and finish the season. Bio-mom KNEW they were on a team; heck, she helped pay for it. She was sent a team schedule and this isn't our first rodeo.... err, game season.

I pray often that one day the light blub will click on and she'll realize that the world doesn't revolve around her. MY home doesn't revolved and her. And most importantly, she missed out on the BEST years of her life!